Michael and Women

Michael loved women, especialy slender, classy and simultaneously tomboyish women. 

He always treated all women with dignity. He admired them, respected them, and idealized them. 

He never really had a chance to see closely how a real relationship works. Due to performances and traveling, his parents weren´t together much when he was young. From an early age, he was exposed to nightclubs and sex - he saw striptease girls, he saw people throwing themselves on each other, and was a witness of sexual contact of his brothers and father with their fans. That was way too soon, much sooner that anybody should have seen that. It alone affects a child very negatively for the rest of their life. But there was also a big confict between this lifestyle and Michael´s religious upbringing and his ideals. 

He didn´t like to see women undersell themselves, he wished dignity for them. But he watched women closely.

When he saw unfunctional relationships of his brothers, he stayed focused on his career.  

He longed for a partner but for intimacy not that much. He would have only gotten serious with someone he would consider marrying. Even then, he prefered flirting and giving gifts instead of surrendering himself completely to someone. He didn´t use to open his heart and soul for discusion and dealt with those common partnership disagreements.



"He didn´t know how to be in a relationship, and he wasn´t willing to learn. He only knew what he knew. Marriage, with its sharing, conflicts and compromises, just didn´t work for him."

Frank Cascio, Michael´s friend



“Don’t believe the nonsense about Michael being gay and stuff. When there were girls around he’d talk about them to the guys and run around pinching their asses and then run away. He was a real funky street dude, know what I mean?”

Michael Lovesmith, former fellow Motown recording artist about young icael




"He would always, like everywhere he went, he would kind of (*shows looking around*) - he called it fishing. He looked around for all the hot girls and he was like: ´Turkle, Turkle, that one´s really hot, look look, oh she, look how her hair is...´ (...) I think he had fears about intimacy, you know, from his childhood. I don´t think he really had great examples of how a relationship works." 

Karen Faye, MJ´s longtime make-up artist, and hair stylist -  youtu.be/62c64u4qhfg (MJ´s stylists talk about his sexuality)




"When I was little I grew up in an adult world. I grew up on stage. I grew up in night clubs. When I was seven, eight years old I was in nightclubs. I saw striptease girls take off all their clothes. I saw fights break out. I saw people throw up on each other. I saw adults act like pigs. That's why to this day I hate clubs. I don't like going to clubs - I did that already, I've been there. That's why I compensate now for what I didn't do then. So when you come to my house, you'll see I have rides, I have a movie theatre, I have animals. I love animals - elephants and giraffes and lions and tigers and bears, all kinds of snakes. I get to do all those wonderful things that I didn't get to do when I was little, because we didn't have those things."

Michael Jackson in Gold Girl Interview



"I've seen my brothers, you know, when we were traveling and stuff and doing the circuit and all that. Joseph would be in another room messing with a girl and it was obvious they were having sex.

I didn't wanna tell mother, and Marlon and I didn't wanna tell them but… all my brothers kind of just… did the same thing, so, Joseph…

I remember, like I told you before, when Marlon and I had to share a room with Jermaine and Bill was asleep. Jermaine would have girls up there all the time, screwing and stuff.

I always said I'd never and Marion said the same thing. 

I felt so guilty when we used to home from the circuit before we made it, y'know, we used to do the club circuits and stuff. 

I felt so guilty, and I just cried and Joseph choked me, almost broke my arm one day. But he was proud of it. It's like, (Joseph's voice) "Oh, this is what you should do, boy".  I mean, he didn't say that, but he was screwin' women in the other room and stuff.

Mother would say when we came home, she and the girls would be in there you know, waitin' back at the house and all happy, "Joseph's back!" Joseph would come home, so glad to see mother. It'd just make me sick. 

And then Jackie and everyone, they started doing that. I told this girl - Jackie saw her  when we were on stage. I told this girl, I said, "Don't go with Jackie." 

He found out and he went backstage and stuff and I said, "Don't go with him, please don't go with him. " She's like, "Why?" I said, "Please don't go with him,  he's gonna hurt you. " So, she went. She met him. She was a virgin. And he had sex with her and stuff like that. And in the limo, we were in the limo. And they were gonna take this girl home. 

Like, I said, "Why did you do that? Why you  didn't just listen to me? Why did you do that? Why did you go with him?" And she was just crying. I said, "Did he hurt you?" and she said, "No. But he told me after we had sex that he never wanted to see me again." I said, "Why did you go with him? I told you backstage don't go with him."

Michael Jackson in Glenda Tapes (secretly recorded phone conversations by private investigator working on behalf of Glenda Stein's husband. Her husband thought she talked to Michael too much on the phone and was having an affair with him - the investigator found nothing to indicate this to be true. Auctioned as the Glenda Stein Tapes in 2005 and purchased by a journalist who died before he could release them all in the public domain.)



”Back home, I had been seeing a lot of Hazel Gordy, but while we liked each other – and send endless love letters – puppy love had not advanced into anything serious, leaving me free to build my experience on the road. We older bothers had a way of describing how far we got with a girl: from 'first base' (the kiss) to 'second base' (touching/clothes off) to third base (the sex) and, in my hotel room, I was an LA Dodger running wild, eyes closed, on top of this girl, kissing and touching with a freedom I didn't think possible. “That feels really good…” she said. I was getting serious, she was groaning. Third base was in sight. I had one hand stroking her face, and the other on the mattress beside her head.

“I love how you stroke my thighs,” she continued, “… you’re real gentle…” I’m not stroking your thighs, I thought. “It feels good,” she whispered. I peeked open my eyes and maneuvered my head to take a sly look down the bed, and that’s when I saw it – Michael’s arm, reaching up and over from underneath the bed, his hand circling her thigh.

“MICHAEL!” I jumped up, the poor girl was mortified and Michael, chuckling, was already scrambling for the door. I could have killed him, not only because he was hiding there the whole time, but because he heard me whispering all these sensual, sweet nothings that he would tease me with for weeks after. I refused to speak to him that night. When we turned out the lights and he wished me goodnight, I said nothing. He waited a few minutes in the dark and then brokered the peace. “She got some real creamy thighs!” he said. And we both burst out laughing”

Jermaine Jackson, Michael´s brother



"When we did the Apollo Theatre in New York, I saw something that really blew me away because I didn't know things like that existed. I had seen quite a few strippers [due to being on Chitlin' Circuit with the Jackson Five as a child], but that night this one girl with gorgeous eyelashes and long hair came out and did her routine. She put on a great performance. All of a sudden, at the end, she took off her wig, pulled a pair of big oranges out of her bra, and revealed that she was a hard-faced guy under all that make-up. That blow me away. I was only a child and couldn't even conceive of anything like that. But I looked out at the theatre audience and they were going for it, applauding wildly and cheering. I'm just a little kid, standing in the wings, watching this crazy stuff. I was blown away.

As I said, I received quite an education as a child. More than most. Perhaps this freed me to concentrate on other aspects of my life as an adult."

Michael Jackson



"The weird thing about my uncle... and I shouldn't call it weird... it's just, as men, we think about sex often. And for him, he was thinking about his craft, musicianship and all that stuff. So, it was secondary, it wasn't the main focus. I think that's where people, kind of, don't understand. Because he wasn't out there sleeping with groupies, and all that stuff. He was into relationships, he talked about women all the time, in terms of liking them and thinking they're cute. He was just naturally shy, as well, in that aspect of it." 

Taj Jackson



"I didn’t really have any girlfriends when I was in school. There were girls I thought were cute, but I found it so difficult to approach them. I was too embarrassed – I don’t know why – it was just crazy. There was one girl who was a good friend to me. I liked her, but I was too embarrassed to tell her."

Michael Jackson




‘Because I really don’t want to offend anyone by watching them. Some people really get uptight if they know someone is looking at them. But I have this weakness - I love looking at girls!’

‘Just watching a girl can give me the best reason to smile. Girls are something very special and you got to treat them that way. That’s why I always say don’t stare right at a chick. She’ll begin to fidget, wondering if her hair’s messed up or if her make-up is smeared. It’s kind of like going to an art gallery to see beautiful paintings. If you look at a painting just the right way, you get the most out of it!’

‘The guys who are doing the rating are missing the whole point. They’re so busy counting up the scores that they’re not looking - I mean really looking at the girls.’

‘The way a girl walks. You can tell a lot from the walk. If she’s happy or sad - if she’s proud of being a girl. And then, there are the chicks that look so helpless that I want to rush over to them and put my arms around them!’

‘And if I’m lucky enough to be close enough to see her face - well, that’s like your favourite dessert after a fine meal!’

‘The eyes - do they wink at you? What makes them shine like they do? Love? Or just happy at being alive?’

‘And the mouth. Is it smiling at some secret? Or is she just doing her best to spread a little happiness by smiling at every person she sees?’

Michael Jackson, in Tiger Beat Magazine Article, 1972



"Sometimes a young lady´s physical beauty can by no means oushine the inner beauty that radiates from her heart and spirit."

Michael Jackson, 1976



“Let’s face, I’m too darn young to be thinking about marriage and kids. I’m still just a kid myself. Being nineteen soon doesn’t mean that I’m ready to settle down."

Michael Jackson, 1976



“I’m too busy for dating girls right now. I’d like to try, maybe. What do you think? Think I should, yeah? Well, I’ll think about that. I’ll think about what you said. We’ll see… But I’m happy. ”

Michael Jackson 1977



“I’m certain that I will get married and settle down to raise a family – I’m just not ready yet. I do meet young ladies that I respect and enjoy being with – but marriage is an important step and I want it to last forever. A family is something that I want more than anything in the world.”

Michael Jackson, 1981



´"I have caught him staring at Diana, not just her butt (which he did at times) but just her and he would have this smile on his face..."

Carry, a friend of Diana Ross’ in the 80s



"Needless to say, I love the interaction between the sexes; it is a natural part of life and I love women. I just think that when sex is used as a form of blackmail or power, it’s a repugnant use of one of God’s gifts."

“I do think that marriage can be a wonderful thing if it’s the right thing for the two people involved. I believe in love – very much so – how can you not believe after you’ve experienced it? I believe in relationships. One day, I know I’ll find the right woman and get married myself.”

Sometimes it's hard for me to look my dates in the eye even if I know them well. My dating and relationships with girls have not had the happy ending I've been looking for. Something always seems to get in the way. The things I share with millions of people aren't the sort of things you share with one. Many girls want to know what makes me tick - why I live the way I live or do the things I do - trying to get inside my head. They want to rescue me from loneliness, but they do it in such a way that they give me the impression they want to share my loneliness, which I wouldn't wish on anybody, because I believe I'm one of the loneliest people in the world."

Michael Jackson in "Moonwalk", 1988




"From travelling around the world, I've met females of almost every race and I have a sort of universal mind when it comes to women. I've met some very beautiful women during my travels but unfortunately many of them had personalities that were not to my liking. It's difficult to find beauty and kindness in one girl."

Michael Jackson in Black Beat Magazine






Karen Faye: "He did tell me he only dated with the intention of marriage. It was a part of his JW beliefs."

Brenda Harvey Richie: Exactly the same thing we discused!

Question: I wonder if that changed after he was married? bc Bill & Javon picked up 2 different women from the airport, on 2 separate occasions, they didn't stay long & he waited a couple of days b4 even seeing them-they sounded like flings (which is normal for a single divorced 49yr man)

Brenda Harvey Richie: MJ did not change about that!

Question: "Was Michael ever engaged to someone other than Lisa?

Karen Faye: Not that I am aware of. If he was, he never mentioned it. I know he asked Brooke to marry him, but she said no."

Twitter 9/2019 twitter.com/BrendaRichie/status/1175319529741676545




"I remember he was going with this girl and he was so in love with her. He came to show me the ring he’d bought for her. I asked him what he was going to say and he didn’t know. So I said: “Let’s rehearse,” and that’s what we did.
But the girl turned him down. She said she wasn’t ready to commit right now. She told him to ask again in six months. And it all but killed him. He was heartbroken."

Liza Minelli



This painting (below) was sold at Julian's auction house several years ago, on behalf of an anonymous woman.
It's believed it was given to a woman Michael had been serious about and whom he proposed to around 1991:


From Glenda Tapes, 1992:

G: Tell me something, you know what? You told me before that you’re the loneliest person.
M: I am!
G: Then how can you be that way when there are so many people…
M: I want to be with someone… I want to know what a relationship is all about before I die, can't you understand that, girl?

I never had… I mean I’ve been with Tate… I’ve been, well not with… I been with Tate. I thought I was with Diana… that was just in my own mind.
G: You were a little boy.
MJ: I know, I have never had a real relationship, my brothers have been married… My brothers have had girlfriends I really haven’t had that.
G: How long did it take you to get over Diana?
MJ: Years… A hell of a long time. I just wanna know what it’s like, girl, to have a real relationship with someone who doesn’t want me for me. That I don’t, I don’t have to look over my shoulder all the time.
G: That doesn’t have an ulterior motive?
MJ: Yeah, that doesn’t question me. I mean… (i) I don’t… and, and.. like La Toya said in her book… she said, either I am going to have to find somebody who doesn’t even know who the heck I am…
G: (i)
MJ: Orrr..oorr deal with somebody whose career is equally as important, or equally like mine.
G: Well.. a nix to both of those.
MJ: What am I gonna do… I don’t want to die without knowing about… having a real relationship with a women or being involved… I don’t… I was involved but we never did anything… we never really had sex…
G: But that was your decision, that wasn’t her’s, I mean.
MJ: But, yeah, but girl, girlfriend had my nose wide open, okay? You could drive a truck through my nose.
G: Laughs…That is the craziest expression. How did they come up with that? I am just wondering who thought of it. I don’t understand how your nose can be wide open.
MJ: I don’t know
G: But it had to come from somewhere and I just wanted to the people who made it up.
G: It’s the craziest expression I have ever heard
MJ: It’s a black thing
G: ( Laughing) Black thing? What is it with your nose? I can’t understand how your nose can be wide open?
MJ: I don’t know..(whispers – It’s just, it’s personal)
G: I mean it had to come from somewhere. Somebody had to have made it up and I was wondering what they were thinking when they made it up?
MJ: It’s a black secret.
G: Okay Laughing
MJ: So I loved her so much… God.
G: So was that the first time…
MJ: No, no (whispers) (it was in her bedroom?)
G: Where did Tatum and that… what was that other girls…
MJ: Tate… I dealt with Tate when I was a little bit younger. She came up to me in a club, we were in a club (she came up to me?) and she put her hand on mind and I couldn’t believe it

(break in tape)

{This is obvious the poster of these audios was throwing us off. They skip from talking about Tatum O’Neal to this woman] [Glenda laughing, now they are talking about someone else]
anything. I would give her money, I would give her jewelry, I would give her a house, a car, whatever… I was never good enough. It was like… you know…
G: Well she wanted all of you Michael… she wanted a relationship
MJ: She knew how I was from the beginning. It wasn’t like she didn’t.
G: Well, she was probably hoping then that it would change
MJ: But, not until I got married
G: Well I know that… and I’m sure that she loved you… and when you have been with somebody for that many years.
MJ: I loved her so much… I didn’t want to see that. I did not want to see that.and I knew she was fooling around. I know, girl. I know it for a fact.
G: Don’t you think that attracted you to the fact that she was such a strong person and she stood up for you against your dad and she was always there? Wasn’t that a lot of the attraction?
MJ: Yeah
G: Because she’s older than you huh?
MJ: Well yeah…
G: (beep sound) That you were drawn to that.
MJ: Yeah I was.
G: (I)
And I was so in love and I had my nose wide open and I didn’t want to believe what was really going on. (Tape cut) It didn’t matter she was (Tape cut) (I), but, that’s another story. (I) And it was a good thing that it was finally over.
G: You don’t have any regrets?
MJ: No, uh uh, I don’t regret that I didn’t sleep with her. I’m glad I didn’t. (I)….
Yeah, that’s a long story.
MJ: I didn’t. I wish it changed but I haven’t experienced it before, ever… having a relationship like that before, I never… Being in a normal…having a relationship with someone (I) I never had that.
G: Well, I think everybody wants too…
MJ: But, I haven’t.
G: Okay
MJ: And that’s what I want. I know I’m not going to be here very long or whatever.
G: I hope it will be years…
MJ: What?
G: How long do you think you will be here?
MJ: You can’t ask me, I don’t know, what kind of question is that I don’t know.
G: You don’t have any ideas?
MJ: I don’t know… I mean, you could come up with all kind of statistics and facts and die!
G: But you said you think (I) Now? (I)
MJ: Well you know, like Melissa told me today… and she was right… she said like, “I want to see you I want to spend time with you before you leave. I don’t care what the circumstances are.” Because she knows my situation now, and she’s like, “I don’t care, whatever you want. But I don’t know if I will ever see you again,” and stuff… she was honest enough, I mean, she told me…
G: She sounds very good.
MJ: It doesn’t matter with her no matter what, you know?
G: She sounds very nice. She sounds very good.
MJ: I don’t want to die not having like, a relationship like everybody else around me have had… I don’t want to die.
G: I know, I think that to accept you…
MJ: For someone to accept me, and I’ve never experienced that, for someone to accept me totally, no matter what.
G: That’s hard to find Michael.
MJ: I don’t have time to wait.
G: You’re pushing 34 my dear. (Laughing)
MJ: Yeah and I have never had that. I’ve never had that kind of relationship. Like I’m alone (Tape cut). Everyone else I know have had it. But, I never have.
G: Well, I guess it’s time you get it.
MJ: I know it is. (Tape Cut)… I trusted her. Even though we had fallen in love (even though we had a little falling out?). I ruin my own relationships. Agree?
G: You do!
MJ: Oh, I won’t do that. I don’t know how I’m gonna get it (I)
G: You sabotage your own relationships.
MJ: Well, I won’t do it.
(Tape cut)
G: Because it sounds like she loved you
MJ: Yeah (I) What?
G: That will be very sad!
(tape cut)
Transcripts from: rhythmofthetide.com/category/glenda-tapes/




"My first girlfriend, Tatum O´Neil, she´d won the Academy Award for Paper Moon... I was sixteen, she was thirteen. And I was naive. She wanted to do everything and I didn´t want to have sex at all, because there were a lot of values associated with being a Jehovah´s Witness. I said: ´Are you crazy?´ One of those was to be kind to everyone. When I held Tatum´s hand it was just magic, better than anything, kissing her, anything. Her, Ryan O´Neil, an myself went to this club and were watching a band and underneath the table she was holding my hand and I was melting. It was magical. There was fireworks going on. It was all I needed. But that means nothing to kids today. She grew up so fast. She wasn´t into innocence and I love that (the innocence).


Michael and Tatum O´Neil:


Now Brooke Shields, she was one of the loves of my life. We dated a lot. Her pictures were all over my walls and mirrors. I was at the Academy Awards with Diana Ross and she just came and said: ´Hi, I´m Brooke Shields. Are you going to the afterparty?´ I said: ´Yeah´ and I just melted. I was about twenty-three, during Off The Wall. I thought: ´Does she know that (photographs of her are) all over my room?´ So we get to the party and she says: ´Would you dance with me?´ And we went on the dance floor. And man, we exchanged numbers and I was up all night, spinning around my room, just so happy. She was classy. We had one encounter when she got real intimate and I chickened out. And I shouldn´t have.

Michael and Brooke Shields:


Lisa... we´re still friendly, but she´s running around. She just changed her number and we don´t have the new one yet." (...) Lisa was great. She was a sweet person. But it is hard to tie me down. I can´t stay in one place one time so that´s why I don´t know if I (can) really be completely married all the time. (...) I have such a life when I´m always on the move and women don´t like that. They want you to be settled in one place all the time but I have to move. (...) 

I'm not easy to live with in that way for a wife. I'm not easy and I know I'm not easy. Because I give all my time to someone else. I give it to children, I give it to somebody sick somewhere, to the music. And women want to be the center. And I remember Lisa Marie would always say to me, "I'm not a piece of furniture, I'm not a piece of furniture. You just can't..." I say, "I don't want you to be a piece of furniture," and, you know, there´d be some sick little girls calling on the phone and she´d get mad and hang up on them. And, you know, I feel that´s my, that´s my mission, Schmuley. I have to do it. (...)


Michael and Lisa Marie Presley:


I wanted children and she didn't. (...) And she promised me that before we married, that would be the first thing we'd do was have children. So I was broken-hearted and I walked around all the time holding these little baby dolls and I'd be crying, that's how badly I wanted them. So I was determined to have children. It disappointed me that she wouldn't keep her promise to me, you know? After we got divorced she would hang out with my mother all the time. I have all these letters saying, “I'll give you nine children. I'll do whatever you want," and of course the press don't know all these stories and she tried for months and months and I just became too hard-hearted at that point. I closed my mind to the whole situation. (...)"

Michael Jackson in MJ Tapes  



Start of the romance... Michael meets Lisa on August 1994 in Los Angeles:




"They were like any other newlywed couple that I've ever sat with. Looking at their photos, they were sitting on the couch, holding hands, giggling and... look at you, there honey, there's you know... and it was just the sweetest thing, it was beautiful."
Steven Paul Whitsitt, photographer (in The MJCast 118: Steven Paul Whitsitt Special www.youtube.com/watch?v=8XfhBcc9MlU&t=5412s)




"I thought about when I photographed a happy Lisa with her then-husband, MJ, in Colorado in 1995. They laughed after they shared a kiss. Michael liked my Scottish tweed jacket, so he wore it for the photographs and of course, I gave it to him afterward." 

Henry Benson, photographer via Instagram (photos above)



The two following tweets are reacting on an insulting article in a tabloid:




"I’m not gonna marry somebody for any reason other than the fact that I’ve fallen in love with them. Period. Period. And they can eat it, if they wanna think any differently."

Lisa Marie Presley



“With Michael Jackson, unfortunately, too much happened, too much got between us. There was a very deep strong love there; intense. But people got in the way, on my end and his end. We had so many people telling us what to do and intercepting and speaking on behalf of the other. Had it been just he and I, towards the end, I don’t think we would have divorced.” 

Lisa Marie Presley


Flo Anthony talks Michael Jackson Love Triangle with Lisa Marie and Debbie Rowe in 1997:


Lisa wants Michael back, says Jackson family friend Flo Anthony in 1998

“I’m on the radio everyday. I did give both sides of the story. However, I can’t confirm that Lisa was in New York with M.J. last week because I didn’t see her myself.

The only thing I know for sure is Lisa definitely is not back with Danny.

She really did visit him there. [refering to the Beverly Hills hotel MJ was staying at] ]

Debbie and Michael are not separated. They do not live together, but it’s an arrangement Debbie wants. She’s told me that over and over. I guess those people in the pictures are friends of hers.’ She has a house in Beverly Hills.

- I definitely think Lisa wants Michael back. They spend a lot of time together. I talk to Mike pretty often.

- Debbie has constantly told me she has no problem with Lisa and Michael’s friendship.


- Michael and Debbie are definitely still married. She really doesn’t like making public appearances. Lisa and Michael MAINTAIN they are just friends.”


Lisa wants Michael back,
Says Jackson family friend Flo Anthony in 1998
“I’m on the radio everyday. I did give both sides of the story. However, I can’t confirm that Lisa was in New York with M.J. last week because I didn’t see her myself.
The only thing I know for sure is Lisa definitely is not back with Danny.
She really did visit him there. [refering to the Beverly Hills hotel MJ was staying at] ]
Debbie and Michael are not separated. They do not live together, but it’s an arrangement Debbie wants. She’s told me that over and over. I guess those people in the pictures are friends of hers.’ She has a house in Beverly Hills.
- I definitely think Lisa wants Michael back. They spend a lot of time together. I talk to Mike pretty often.
- Debbie has constantly told me she has no problem with Lisa and Michael’s friendship.
- Michael and Debbie are definitely still married. She really doesn’t like making public appearances. Lisa and Michael MAINTAIN they are just friends.”


Interview with Debbie Rowe, Michael´s ex wife and mother of his two first kids.

Starts at 3:50 min



More on Michael Jackson´s relationships here:





Q: "Was Michael ladies´ man?"

Tito Jackson: "Oh! Are you kidding me? I used to tell people, when they used to say things, ´He´s gay´or whatever, I said no. Leave your wife or your girl with him for a day and you’ll find out.”

Tito Jackson explains who his brother Michael really was (Sept 2019): youtu.be/TuMjo6nwcDY and Michael´s nephew confirms it:



"(...) And not to mention, @jmoffettmjm himself worked with Michael for over 30 years and knows how much Michael was CRAZY about women. He told me many stories. I can’t say them (out of respect to both my fiancé and Michael), but he’s not the only one who knew him very well to say this... (...)"

Myra Hissami, designer, filmmaker, musician, entrepreneur, fianceé of MJ´s longtime drummer (who liked this post) www.instagram.com/p/BumdzZiAud-/


Michael Jackson Scoping Out Pretty Girls in Budapest 1996:


"I don´t like women who are always saying, ´My nails to be done. I have to do my toes. I need a manicure." I hate all that. I like it when girls are a little bit more tomboyish. If they wrestle, climb a tree... I love that. It is sexier to me. I like class though. Class is everything."

Michael Jackson in MJ Tapes



"He’s always saying to me that there is a beautiful woman. He and I talk about him not having many dates and it’s because he doesn’t know if they are interested in his money and celebrity or whether they have a genuine interest in him. He’s a romantic.”

Rabbi Schmuley on Howard Stein, April 6th, 2001



“You know it’s funny… Michael was a big sex symbol. Which has kind of got lost in the thing, but Michael was a huge sex symbol and… I’ll tell a story that’s not in the book because I actually didn’t have the right framework for it but in talking to LA Reid and talking to Teddy Riley, guys that spent a lot of time with him, they both told me stories about these women in the studio. It’s an interesting thing, everyone has their perceptions about what Michael was about, but I’ll tell you what… LA Reid is a guy I know very well, I know Teddy Riley very well, these are very straight guys. And they’re telling me that Michael had fine-ass women in the studio, you know, hanging out with him. I believe them. But also, the other thing he said about that was that he… would not… this is another story, another story, another friend of mine, a giant Michael Jackson fan, befriended him, I guess it must be around the turn of the century. So he goes to a party with Michael, Michael’s asking him, “Where’s Beyonce?” ‘Cause he’s never met Beyonce at this point, ’cause he wanted to see her, he made a reference about her derriere. And he goes, “I want to see the girl with the…[derriere]” So he introduces him to Beyonce.

And Michael sees a woman in the crowd, and gets them to bring her over, Michael chats with her, Michael does not take her phone number. As any well known star knows you never take the phone number, your man takes the phone number. So this guy ends up getting the number for Michael. So it’s interesting that there’s this whole narrative about Michael as a heterosexual male, hanging out with guys I know who are very heterosexual male, but there’s something interesting… he himself, would never consciously publicly… it was like he had this whole thing… he was selling the innocent, magical thing.”

Nelson George, Conversations on Michael’s Black America, June 4 2010


Invincible Meet and Greet flirting footage:


“He’ll see a girl and comment on her or want to touch her [bottom]. He likes girls.”

Aaron Carter


‘We’d go out for dinner or a coffee and he would notice women walking past and say, ‘She’s so cute, she’s got a nice tush,’ but then he would be very apologetic."

Mark Lester


MJ in Gary Indiana, June 2003:


"When we were riding around in a car in Berlin, Michael would look at the women in miniskirts and high heels …”Look at her hips!” and “Look at her ass!” Michael would say.

However, when we passed the girl in question he realized she was a 50 year old woman.

It is needless to say that Michael and I had a good laugh about that. It goes without saying that Michael is pro ass?"

 A bodyguard for Michael Jackson in Berlin 1988 (rough translation)


"By this time I was about 20 and we had much more to talk about. I’ll never forget the first thing he asked me was about my aunt. He had a thing for my Aunt J in the 80′s. She was ten years older than him and about 100 pounds heavier than him. She had always been pretty big and curvacious, most of her weight settling towards her lower body. It cracked me up that after all that time he was still checking for her. My mother had always told me that she thought Michael was some kind of undercover freak. He tried to be a shy boy in his younger days but he often got caught stealing some peeks. As she says, she thinks Michael was an “ass man.”

We caught up over the phone. He never failed to remind me of what a “pretty woman” I had grown up to be. He also never hesitated to bring up my childhood (and adulthood lol) crushes on Jermaine and Jackie. The Michael I was talking to was no “freak” and he surely wasnt weird. In fact he was way more normal than me. We called each other for the next few years and chatted about this and that. He was the same ol Michael to me. I started to think about making him pay my phone bill because he liked to talk…A LOT.

The Michael that people read about and see on TV was not the real Michael. They portray him to be some weird, quiet, asexual, virgin hermit that he’s not. Michael Joseph Jackson was one of the most flirtatious men I’ve ever encountered. It always throws me that people think he’s asexual or even gay. Michael loves women. Period. Black women, big women, little women, white women, tall women, short women…all women. No woman could be safe around the King of Pop. As shy as he was, he never hesitated to place his hands on my hips or stare at different women. He would be embarrassed to be caught taken a peak at cleavage or a booty. It was always a good laugh catching Mike glancing at someone’s assets. I saw him with different women over the years and I can be a witness to him being very much hetero.

We would get together and drink a little. We chatted about everything under the sun and laughed about everything. No one can make me laugh the way Michael did. He liked to joke about his bad luck with women. Some of the best laughter I’ve ever had was hearing him drop an f-bomb every now and then or his face when I made him dance with me to In The Closet. There was never a quiet dull moment around him. He allowed me to steal kisses from him and playfully tug at his clothes. I’d let him sneak a kiss in and I wouldnt bust him out for feeling up my thigh. I would never pass up the chances I got to get the famous MJ hugs. He has the best hugs in the world. But our relationship was never anything but platonic with a bit of the good ol Jackson flirtation."

Myspace post from someone who knew him



Magdalena: Who would be your ideal leading lady, and why?

Michael: An actress? [laughs] You and I should do a film together. Let’s do it, I’d love that…

Magdalena was the interviewer in Gold Magazine, 2002



“I came out front with him and we were dancing around and playing guitar, and he was right next to me,” she said, encouraging fans to visit her website to look for photos of the two together. “We never really had any contact with each other. We’re doing the show, night after night after night. One night, I think we were in Buenes Aires, or Chile, I can’t remember which … I had my eyes shut and I’m playing guitar, doing a guitar solo. All of a sudden I feel something on my butt. I was like, ‘Oh my God, some crazed fan had somehow gotten past security and was on stage. But he was just having fun with me. I turned around and I saw that it was him, and my jaw dropped. And the drummer, I think he skipped a beat because he was laughing so hard.”

Becky Barksdale, lead guitarist for Michael during the Dangerous World Tour


Interviwer: Did he ever flirt with you?

Kai: Oh yeah, he would flirt you know, in his own charming way. I remember Prince coming into the kitchen, “daddy wants to know when dinner’s going to be ready?” I said, “It’s going to be ready at 6:30.” "Okay, well when it’s ready can you come and set it on the table.” So I’m in the dining room and I’m putting the dishes down and the food and what not and he walks in. I have menus on the table for the kids to see. So I’m leaving the area and I have on my chef’s uniform, the chef’s jacket and on the back there’s a little openning at the back of the apron. So I have my white jeans on and I remember as I’m walking out, I turn around just to see and all of a sudden “psshht” his head turned and it was right on my tush. I was like okaaaay.

Interviewer: Fair to say that in that moment the King of Pop was reading more than one menu at the same time.

Kai: (laughing) I think so. Kai Chase, Michael´s personal chef during his last months




Question: Did you see MJ flirting with girls a lot? Was he a natural flirt or just avoided the whole thing because of his shyness?
MJ´s bodyguard: I was not going to answer this, but I'll give you guys a little. Yes, MJ was very charming, he did flirt from time to time. Sometimes he would ask me to get someone's number or ask do I think someone is cute? It was so funny to watch the dude flirt. I tell women I meet that I have a dog, I would hear MJ tell women he has a Zoo! How do you top someone that has a Zoo?


One of Michael Jackson´s love letters:


Why did you take away your love, the same love that made me unable to speak and made me forget my worries, the love that saved me? Tell me, did I come to short? Wasn’t I enough? Have I done or said something wrong? I believe in miracles and [blocked] angels. I know you escaped through heaven’s gates to brighten the [blocked]. I believe in FAITH, deep inside I feel that nature has banded us.

I have seen nothing but misery in my life until [blocked] all these years, I have been seeking to give while I only desire now to receive from you. Your heart commanded me to follow while my soul was hurt and my mind CONFUSED.

I allowed you to take possession of my feelings. In return, I loved, obeyed and honored you beyond words.

I revealed myself to you in ways from which I thought they were impossible.

I saw and still see you as my soulmate, as my wife and as the mother of my fourth child.



Then what is your reason for leaving?

Why did you go away, silently in the middle of the night without me, the slave of your heart?

I cannot conceive it possible.

I know we are meant to be, I can feel it. Still I have no regrets for what happened between us, [blacked out]. I can only come to the conclusion that you have made an unnatural decision that was not supported by your heart, nor were these your words. It is my will to believe that other matters have caused you to run away like this.

But whatever the reason maybe, I will not let it divide us. I prefer myself to believe that our parting is only temporary.

Let me strive for another outcome.

[blacked out]

For ever yours

[blacked out]

Call me [blacked out]




Reported source:

It’s a newspaper article, claiming to have spoken with a previous girlfriend of Michael, who could “prove” this with a love letter.
The title is “We’re getting the facts right. Is this
the prove that J**o was not gay?”
Former girlfriend shows proof.

The writer asks why she comes forward while she wants to remain anonymous.
She tells she is tired of the lies and the filthy press. She wants the world to see and know Michael for who he really was. She is not looking for publicity or money.
She tells he always was a loving person, very sweet, always concerned, nervous type, cared for and wanted to save the entire world.
She refused to answer
to intimate questions concerning their relationship, if they had sex etc.
She says people who accused him from all these bad things should go straight to prison or hell.
She says they broke him, hurt him so much, he was lost when she met him the first time. He feared to trust.
She also tells about how much he loved the fans, how much they meant to Michael, how much he talked about the fans and how he missed the fans during the years he was gone. Then she talks about Michael and children, that he lived for children. There is also a part about Neverland. She never went there. She never asked Michael to go there with her. She did view pictures of Neverland from before the accusations.


Source of the letter: rhythmofthetide.com/michael-jackson-love-letters/#comments


Last interview with Lisa Marie Presley about her ex-husband MJ on Oprah 2010:


Q: Was Jackson gay? 

Lisa Marie Presley: Absolutely not, not in any way shape, or form. Not, not, not, not.

The Times UK/October 2012



Michael Jackson's Bodyguards (2007 - 2009) talking:

Bill: Being a father myself and being a man, men know men, he had the desires of women like we do.
Narration: In fact, they say he had at least two girlfriends, dispelling that other rumor.
Bill: We had a curtain that covered the backseat, you couldn’t see in the backseat, they talked back there… I mean, you know.
Interviewer: So he’s making out in the backseat.
Bill: Or chewing loud gum (everyone laughs).
Interviewer: It sounds like you’re chaperoning two teenagers on a date.
(All nod and agree)
Javon: It was cute for us.



Paris Jackson via Formspring