Michael and Women
“Don’t believe the nonsense about Michael being gay and stuff. When there were girls around he’d talk about them to the guys and run around pinching their asses and then run away. He was a real funky street dude, know what I mean?”
Michael Lovesmith, former fellow Motown recording artist
I didn’t really have any girlfriends when I was in school. There were girls I thought were cute, but I found it so difficult to approach them. I was too embarrassed – I don’t know why – it was just crazy. There was one girl who was a good friend to me. I liked her, but I was too embarrassed to tell her.
‘Because I really don’t want to offend anyone by watching them. Some people really get uptight if they know someone is looking at them. But I have this weakness - I love looking at girls!’
‘Just watching a girl can give me the best reason to smile. Girls are something very special and you got to treat them that way. That’s why I always say don’t stare right at a chick. She’ll begin to fidget, wondering if her hair’s messed up or if her make-up is smeared. It’s kind of like going to an art gallery to see beautiful paintings. If you look at a painting just the right way, you get the most out of it!’
‘The guys who are doing the rating are missing the whole point. They’re so busy counting up the scores that they’re not looking - I mean really looking at the girls.’
‘The way a girl walks. You can tell a lot from the walk. If she’s happy or sad - if she’s proud of being a girl. And then, there are the chicks that look so helpless that I want to rush over to them and put my arms around them!’
‘And if I’m lucky enough to be close enough to see her face - well, that’s like your favourite dessert after a fine meal!’
‘The eyes - do they wink at you? What makes them shine like they do? Love? Or just happy at being alive?’
‘And the mouth. Is it smiling at some secret? Or is she just doing her best to spread a little happiness by smiling at every person she sees?’
Michael Jackson, in Tiger Beat Magazine Article, 1972
"Sometimes a young lady´s physical beauty can by no means oushine the inner beauty that radiates from her heart and spirit."
Michael Jackson, 1976
“Let’s face, I’m too darn young to be thinking about marriage and kids. I’m still just a kid myself. Being nineteen soon doesn’t mean that I’m ready to settle down."
Michael Jackson, 1976
“I’m too busy for dating girls right now. I’d like to try, maybe. What do you think? Think I should, yeah? Well, I’ll think about that. I’ll think about what you said. We’ll see… But I’m happy. ”
Michael Jackson 1977
“I’m certain thatI will get married and settle down to raise a family – I’m just not ready yet. I do meet young ladies that I respect and enjoy being with – but marriage is an important step and I want it to last forever. A family is something that I want more than anything in the world.”
Michael Jackson, 1981
´"I have caught him staring at Diana, not just her butt (which he did at times) but just her and he would have this smile on his face..."
Carry, a friend of Diana Ross’ in the 80s
"Needless to say, I loMichaelve the interaction between the sexes; it is a natural part of life and I love women. I just think that when sex is used as a form of blackmail or power, it’s a repugnant use of one of God’s gifts."
“I do think that marriage can be a wonderful thing if it’s the right thing for the two people involved. I believe in love – very much so – how can you not believe after you’ve experienced it? I believe in relationships. One day, I know I’ll find the right woman and get married myself.”
Sometimes it's hard for me to look my dates in the eye even if I know them well. My dating and relationships with girls have not had the happy ending I've been looking for. Something always seems to get in the way. The things I share with millions of people aren't the sort of things you share with one. Many girls want to know what makes me tick - why I live the way I live or do the things I do - trying to get inside my head. They want to rescue me from loneliness, but they do it in such a way that they give me the impression they want to share my loneliness, which I wouldn't wish on anybody, because I believe I'm one of the loneliest people in the world."
Michael Jackson in "Moonwalk"
M: I want to be with someone… I want to know what a relationship is all about before I die, cant you understand that, girl?
M: I just wanna know what it’s like, girl, to have a real relationship with someone who doesn’t want me for me.. that I don’t, I dont’ have to look over my shoulder all the time.
M: Yeah, that doesn’t question me.. I mean..(i) I dont… and, and.. like La Toya said in her book.. she said, either I am going to have to find somebody who doesn’t know who the heck I am or, or, deal with somebody whose career is equally as important, or equally like mine.
G: Well, a nix to both of those
M: What am I gonna do? I dont want to die without knowing about having a real relationship with a women or being involved…
M: I haven’t been married before, ever.. having a relationship like that before, I never… Being in a normal… having a relationship with someone (I) I never had that.
G: Well, I think everybody wants too
M: But, I haven’t!
M: And that’s what I want.
M: I don’t want to die not having a relationship like everybody else around me have had.
G: You’re pushing 34 my dear.
M: Yeah and I have never had that. I’ve never had that kind of relationship. Why would I want (Tape cut). Everyone else I know have had it. But I never have.
G: Well, I guess it’s time you get it.
M: I know it is. (Tape Cut) I trust her. Even though we had a little falling out. I ruin my own relationships.
From Glenda Tapes, 1992
"My first girlfriend, Tatum O´Neil, she´d won the Academy Award for Paper Moon... I was sixteen, she was thirteen. And I was naive. She wanted to do everything and I didn´t want to have sex at all, because there were a lot of values associated with being a Jehovah´s Witness. I said: ´Are you crazy?´ One of those was to be kind to everyone. When I held Tatum´s hand it was just magic, better than anything, kissing her, anything. Her, Ryan O´Neil, an myself went to this club and were watching a band and underneath the table she was holding my hand and I was melting. It was magical. There was fireworks going on. It was all I needed. But that means nothing to kids today. She grew up so fast. She wasn´t into innocence and I love that.
Now Broke Shields, she was one of the loves of my life. We dated a lot. Her pictures were all over my walls and mirrors. I was at the Academy Awards with Diana Ross and she just came and said: ´Hi, I´m Brooke Shields. Are you going to the afterparty?´ I said: ´Yeah´ and I just melted. I was about twenty-three, during Off The Wall. I thought: ´Does she know that (photographs of her are) all over my room?´ So we get to the party and she says: ´Would you dance with me?´ And we went on the dance floor. And man, we exchanged numbers and I was up all night, spinning around my room, just so happy. She was classy. We had one encounter when she got real intimate and I chickened out. And I shouldn´t have.
Lisa... we´re still friendly, but she´s running around. She just changed her number and we don´t have the new one yet." (...) Lisa was great. She was a sweet person. But it is hard to tie me down. I can´t stay in one place one time so that´s why I don´t know if I (can) really be completely married all the time. (...) I have such a life when I´m always on the move and women don´t like that. They want you to be settled in one place all the time but I have to move. (...)
I'm not easy to live with in that way for a wife. I'm not easy and I know I'm not easy. Because I give all my time to someone else. I give it to children, I give it to somebody sick somewhere, to the music. And women want to be the center. And I remember Lisa Marie would always say to me, "I'm not a piece of furniture, I'm not a piece of furniture. You just can't..." I say, "I don't want you to be a piece of furniture," and, you know, there´d be some sick little girls calling on the phone and she´d get mad and hang up on them. And, you know, I feel that´s my, that´s my mission, Schmuley. I have to do it. (...)
I wanted children and she didn't. (...) And she promised me that before we married, that would be the first thing we'd do was have children. So I was broken-hearted and I walked around all the time holding these little baby dolls and I'd be crying, that's how badly I wanted them. So I was determined to have children. It disappointed me that she wouldn't keep her promise to me, you know? After we got divorced she would hang out with my mother all the time. I have all these letters saying, “I'll give you nine children. I'll do whatever you want," and of course the press don't know all these stories and she tried for months and months and I just became too hard-hearted at that point. I closed my mind to the whole situation. (...)"
Michael Jackson in MJ Tapes
“With MJ [Michael Jackson], unfortunately, too much happened, too much got between us. There was a very deep strong love there; intense. But people got in the way, on my end and his end. We had so many people telling us what to do and intercepting and speaking on behalf of the other. Had it been just he and I, towards the end, I don’t think we would have divorced.”
Lisa Marie Presley
Interview with Debbie Rowe, Michael´s ex wife and mother of his two first kids.
Starts at 3:50 min
More on Michael Jackson´s relationships here:
"I don´t like women who are always saying, ´My nails to be done. I have to do my toes. I need a manicure." I hate all that. I like it when girls are a little bit more tomboyish. If they wrestle, climb a tree... I love that. It is sexier to me. I like class though. Class is everything."
Michael Jackson in MJ Tapes
“You know it’s funny… Michael was a big sex symbol. Which has kind of got lost in the thing, but Michael was a huge sex symbol and… I’ll tell a story that’s not in the book because I actually didn’t have the right framework for it but in talking to LA Reid and talking to Teddy Riley, guys that spent a lot of time with him, they both told me stories about these women in the studio. It’s an interesting thing, everyone has their perceptions about what Michael was about, but I’ll tell you what… LA Reid is a guy I know very well, I know Teddy Riley very well, these are very straight guys. And they’re telling me that Michael had fine-ass women in the studio, you know, hanging out with him. I believe them. But also, the other thing he said about that was that he… would not… this is another story, another story, another friend of mine, a giant Michael Jackson fan, befriended him, I guess it must be around the turn of the century. So he goes to a party with Michael, Michael’s asking him, “Where’s Beyonce?” ‘Cause he’s never met Beyonce at this point, ’cause he wanted to see her, he made a reference about her derriere. And he goes, “I want to see the girl with the…[derriere]” So he introduces him to Beyonce.
And Michael sees a woman in the crowd, and gets them to bring her over, Michael chats with her, Michael does not take her phone number. As any well known star knows you never take the phone number, your man takes the phone number. So this guy ends up getting the number for Michael. So it’s interesting that there’s this whole narrative about Michael as a heterosexual male, hanging out with guys I know who are very heterosexual male, but there’s something interesting… he himself, would never consciously publicly… it was like he had this whole thing… he was selling the innocent, magical thing.”
Nelson George, Conversations on Michael’s Black America, June 4 2010
“He’ll see a girl and comment on her or want to touch her [bottom]. He likes girls.”
‘We’d go out for dinner or a coffee and he would notice women walking past and say, ‘She’s so cute, she’s got a nice tush,’ but then he would be very apologetic."
"When we were riding around in a car in Berlin, Michael would look at the women in miniskirts and high heels …”Look at her hips!” and “Look at her ass!” Michael would say.
However, when we passed the girl in question he realized she was a 50 year old woman.
It is needless to say that Michael and I had a good laugh about that. It goes without saying that Michael is pro ass?"
A bodyguard for Michael Jackson in Berlin 1988 (rough translation)
"By this time I was about 20 and we had much more to talk about. I’ll never forget the first thing he asked me was about my aunt. He had a thing for my Aunt J in the 80′s. She was ten years older than him and about 100 pounds heavier than him. She had always been pretty big and curvacious, most of her weight settling towards her lower body. It cracked me up that after all that time he was still checking for her. My mother had always told me that she thought Michael was some kind of undercover freak. He tried to be a shy boy in his younger days but he often got caught stealing some peeks. As she says, she thinks Michael was an “ass man.”
We caught up over the phone. He never failed to remind me of what a “pretty woman” I had grown up to be. He also never hesitated to bring up my childhood (and adulthood lol) crushes on Jermaine and Jackie. The Michael I was talking to was no “freak” and he surely wasnt weird. In fact he was way more normal than me. We called each other for the next few years and chatted about this and that. He was the same ol Michael to me. I started to think about making him pay my phone bill because he liked to talk…A LOT.
The Michael that people read about and see on TV was not the real Michael. They portray him to be some weird, quiet, asexual, virgin hermit that he’s not. Michael Joseph Jackson was one of the most flirtatious men I’ve ever encountered. It always throws me that people think he’s asexual or even gay. Michael loves women. Period. Black women, big women, little women, white women, tall women, short women…all women. No woman could be safe around the King of Pop. As shy as he was, he never hesitated to place his hands on my hips or stare at different women. He would be embarrassed to be caught taken a peak at cleavage or a booty. It was always a good laugh catching Mike glancing at someone’s assets. I saw him with different women over the years and I can be a witness to him being very much hetero.
We would get together and drink a little. We chatted about everything under the sun and laughed about everything. No one can make me laugh the way Michael did. He liked to joke about his bad luck with women. Some of the best laughter I’ve ever had was hearing him drop an f-bomb every now and then or his face when I made him dance with me to In The Closet. There was never a quiet dull moment around him. He allowed me to steal kisses from him and playfully tug at his clothes. I’d let him sneak a kiss in and I wouldnt bust him out for feeling up my thigh. I would never pass up the chances I got to get the famous MJ hugs. He has the best hugs in the world. But our relationship was never anything but platonic with a bit of the good ol Jackson flirtation."
Myspace post from someone who knew him
Magdalena: Who would be your ideal leading lady, and why?
Michael: An actress? [laughs] You and I should do a film together. Let’s do it, I’d love that…
Magdalena was interviewer in Gold Magazine, 2002
“I came out front with him and we were dancing around and playing guitar, and he was right next to me,” she said, encouraging fans to visit her website to look for photos of the two together. “We never really had any contact with each other. We’re doing the show, night after night after night. One night, I think we were in Buenes Aires, or Chile, I can’t remember which … I had my eyes shut and I’m playing guitar, doing a guitar solo. All of a sudden I feel something on my butt. I was like, ‘Oh my God, some crazed fan had somehow gotten past security and was on stage. But he was just having fun with me. I turned around and I saw that it was him, and my jaw dropped. And the drummer, I think he skipped a beat because he was laughing so hard.”
Becky Barksdale, lead guitarist for Michael during the Dangerous World Tour
Interviwer: Did he ever flirt with you?
Kai: Oh yeah, he would flirt you know, in his own charming way. I remember Prince coming into the kitchen, “daddy wants to know when dinner’s going to be ready?” I said, “It’s going to be ready at 6:30.” "Okay, well when it’s ready can you come and set it on the table.” So I’m in the dining room and I’m putting the dishes down and the food and what not and he walks in. I have menus on the table for the kids to see. So I’m leaving the area and I have on my chef’s uniform, the chef’s jacket and on the back there’s a little openning at the back of the apron. So I have my white jeans on and I remember as I’m walking out, I turn around just to see and all of a sudden “psshht” his head turned and it was right on my tush. I was like okaaaay.
Interviewer: Fair to say that in that moment the King of Pop was reading more than one menu at the same time.
Kai: (laughing) I think so. Kai Chase, Michael´s personal chef during his last months
Question: Did you see MJ flirting with girls a lot? Was he a natural flirt or just avoided the whole thing because of his shyness?
MJ´s bodyguard: I was not going to answer this, but I'll give you guys a little. Yes, MJ was very charming, he did flirt from time to time. Sometimes he would ask me to get someone's number or ask do I think someone is cute? It was so funny to watch the dude flirt. I tell women I meet that I have a dog, I would hear MJ tell women he has a Zoo! How do you top someone that has a Zoo?
One of Michael Jackson´s love letters:
Why did you take away your love, the same love that made me unable to speak and made me forget my worries, the love that saved me? Tell me, did I come to short? Wasn’t I enough? Have I done or said something wrong? I believe in miracles and [blocked] angels. I know you escaped through heaven’s gates to brighten the [blocked]. I believe in FAITH, deep inside I feel that nature has banded us.
I have seen nothing but misery in my life until [blocked] all these years, I have been seeking to give while I only desire now to receive from you. Your heart commanded me to follow while my soul was hurt and my mind CONFUSED.
I allowed you to take possession of my feelings. In return, I loved, obeyed and honored you beyond words.
I revealed myself to you in ways from which I thought they were impossible.
I saw and still see you as my soulmate, as my wife and as the mother of my fourth child.
Then what is your reason for leaving?
Why did you go away, silently in the middle of the night without me, the slave of your heart?
I cannot conceive it possible.
I know we are meant to be, I can feel it. Still I have no regrets for what happened between us, [blacked out]. I can only come to the conclusion that you have made an unnatural decision that was not supported by your heart, nor were these your words. It is my will to believe that other matters have caused you to run away like this.
But whatever the reason maybe, I will not let it divide us. I prefer myself to believe that our parting is only temporary.
Let me strive for another outcome.
For ever yours
Call me [blacked out]
Reported source for the info:
It’s a newspaper article, claiming to have spoken with a previous girlfriend of Michael, who could “prove” this with a love letter
The title is “We’re getting the facts right. Is this the prove that J**o was not gay?”
Former girlfriend shows proof.
The writer asks why she comes forward while she wants to remain anonymous.
She tells she is tired of the lies and the filthy press. She wants the world to see and know Michael for who he really was. She is not looking for publicity or money.
She tells he always was a loving person, very sweet, always concerned, nervous type, cared for and wanted to save the entire world.
She refused to answer to intimate questions concerning their relationship, if they had sex etc.
She says people who accused him from all these bad things should go straight to prison or hell.
She says they broke him, hurt him so much, he was lost when she met him the first time. He feared to trust.
She also tells about how much he loved the fans, how much they meant to Michael, how much he talked about the fans and how he missed the fans during the years he was gone. Then she talks about Michael and children, that he lived for children. There is also a part about Neverland. She never went there. She never asked Michael to go there with her. She did view pictures of Neverland from before the accusations.
Source of the letter: rhythmofthetide.com/michael-jackson-love-letters/#comments
Michael Jackson's Bodyguards (2007 - 2009) talking:
Bill: Being a father myself and being a man, men know men, he had the desires of women like we do.
Narration: In fact, they say he had at least two girlfriends, dispelling that other rumor.
Bill: We had a curtain that covered the backseat, you couldn’t see in the backseat, they talked back there… I mean, you know.
Interviewer: So he’s making out in the backseat.
Bill: Or chewing loud gum (everyone laughs).
Interviewer: It sounds like you’re chaperoning two teenagers on a date.
(All nod and agree)
Javon: It was cute for us.